var fs  = require('fs')
var path = require('path')

var remove = function(tarPath, cb, removeStates) {
 if (!removeStates) {
  removeStates = { cur: 0, all: 0 }
 } else {
  if (!removeStates.cur) {
   removeStates.cur = 0;
  }
  if (!removeStates.all) {
   removeStates.all = 0;
  }
 }
 removeStates.all++;
 fs.stat(tarPath, function(err, states) {
  removeStates.cur++;
  if (err) {
   cb && cb()
   return
  }
  if (states.isDirectory()) {
   fs.readdir(tarPath, function(err, files) {
    if (err) {
     console.log(err)
     cb && cb()
     return
    }
    if (files.length < 1) {
     fs.rmdir(tarPath, cb)
     return
    }
    var count  = 0
    var checkEnd = function() {
     if (++count == files.length) {
      fs.rmdir(tarPath, cb)
     }
    }
    files.forEach(function(file) {
     remove(path.join(tarPath, file), checkEnd, removeStates)
    })
   })
  } else {
   fs.unlink(tarPath, function(err) {
    if (err) {
     console.log(err)
    }
    cb && cb()
    return
   })
  }
 })
 return removeStates
}

var states = remove('./testdir', function() {
  console.log('delete complete')
  clearInterval(checkTimer)
});
var checkTimer = setInterval(function() {
  console.log(states)
}, 500);

node remove.js
{ cur: 546, all: 546 }
delete complete

function deleteFolderRecursive(path) {
  if( fs.existsSync(path) ) {
    fs.readdirSync(path).forEach(function(file) {
      var curPath = path + "/" + file;
      if(fs.statSync(curPath).isDirectory()) { // recurse
        deleteFolderRecursive(curPath);
      } else { // delete file
        fs.unlinkSync(curPath);
      }
    });
    fs.rmdirSync(path);
  }
};